Monday, April 28, 2008

Internet Love

Back in the fall of 2004 I had been dumped by my ex-boyfriend for 4 months. I wasn't all that interested in dating again any time soon because I was relishing my single status. However, my friend Cyn dared me to post my profile on because she figured it would be fun. So I did.

It was hard to write a profile for myself so I made it fairly goofy. I figured that it would be sure to keep guys away. I was wrong. I had 4 guys interested within a few days. I emailed with some of them, and they were nice enough, but there didn't seem to be anything meaningful there.

Then I got an email that made me pause. It was from Rich. He said he owned a little bait shop here, and that he had left the tech world to do it. He had a colony of feral cats there that he cared for, and he seemed very nice. We emailed a few times, and then we started IMing. He seemed like someone I wanted to know better.

We made a date to take a walk shortly after, and we had a very good time. I remember that when I met him at the park he got out of his truck and started walking toward me and he had the coolest walk ever. He was also chewing a piece of gum. He chews a lot of gum.

After our walk we started dating, which lasted all of 2 weeks. That's because I basically moved in with him at that point. I don't know why it seemed like the right thing to do, especially that quickly, but it did. This was in November. By February I actually did move in, packing up my apartment and the pets and invading his household with all of my crap. EVERYONE was nervous, thinking we were moving too fast, but it honestly didn't seem like it.

By March we were engaged. I managed to win my ring on eBay, a nice, fairly decent sized diamond, for $165 including shipping (I wear a size 4.5, and apparently not too many people do). We made plans to get married in October for our 1 year anniversary, and we started "planning" the wedding. We were getting married in Elkton, MD, the elopement capital of the East Coast. We invited 30 people, including significant others, and as I said, we had our reception at a crab shack. It was one of the most fun weddings I've ever been to. It was short and sweet, and there was no dancing at the reception. There was a ton of drinking and eating, and the cake was fantabulous. 

By this time the bait shop had failed, and Rich had sold it in September. he went back to the tech world because he had 2 of us to support now, and we had already sold everything of value. It sucked, because I loved that bait shop, but it had to be done. 

We decided that we would start trying for a baby fairly soon and I went off the pill, expecting it to take 3 months for me to cycle normally again. Apparently not. I got knocked up in December, about 7 weeks after the wedding. The rest is history.

So to anyone who doubts internet dating I can honestly say it worked out for the best for me. I have a family I adore, a home I love, and am satisfied with everything that came of it.

Have a great Monday everyone. :)


Dagny said...

Just rub your fertileness in my face eh????????


I am glad you guys found each other. One of my very good friends also met her hubby online. So it seems to work!!

Annie said...

I have never known anyone it worked for and now I know two!
I still don't think I will do it, but I am glad it worked out for you :-).

Barb said...

Great Story Julie!!

Cyn said...

I have yet to find anyone on line remotely like Rich (meaning normal). It did seem fast to me at the time, however I am glad everything worked out.

Em said...

I see nothing wrong with internet dating. My neighbor does it... she's had a lot of sex, but no love and that works for her so whatever!

Mattsangel said...

I guess we have something in common because I met my husband online also. It's a long story I can pm you about sometime if you want. I met him on eharmony, and the rest is history. No regrets!! :)

Anonymous said...

So, you'll write my profile then, right?

You hooked a good one and whatever bait you used, I need a piece.